I am a biracial, nonbinary Bator with a penis that is not huge, a body that is chubby, and a practice that has taught me more about belonging than most rooms ever did. I say that without apology. For years my shame was organized, almost professional in its efficiency. It lived in my dick. It lived in my gender. It lived in the public meaning of being a person of color. Society has always had work for a body like mine: be useful, be readable, be the correct kind of sexual or the correct kind...